There’s a tango forum I’m on which raised the question of what might be considered selfish versus altruistic dancing: to what extent do we dance with the partners who give us the best dance experience, versus others who might not?

In particular, how do we resolve the apparent contradiction between the idea that nobody owes anyone a dance, and tango as a social dance. Someone in the forum asked whether we should all be making an effort to dance with strangers, beginners, those not dancing, those we didn’t connect with in the past, and so on – or is it ok to simply dance with the partners whose dance we love … ?