Category Archives: Following

Finally achieving a long-held ambition to write a short blog post about the Feast!

Given that the Feast is not only my favourite tango festival but also the most frequent, I’ve written the occasional blog post about it in the four years I’ve been coming. Each time, I think I can’t possibly have anything new to say, and every time I write several thousand words.

But this time I’ve finally achieved my long-held ambition to write a short post! Anyone feeling short-changed by this will find some video compensation at the end …

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My tastiest ever Feast coming at just the right moment

The Feast always feels like my tango home. It’s never been anything less than delicious, but this one was just … perfect.

Everyone in tango knows how fickle it can be. Sometimes the stars align and everything works wonderfully. Other times we can have a less happy experience for no obvious reason. This was one of those occasions when the tango gods were in the best and most generous of moods …

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I just reached an important milestone on my leisurely path toward dual-role dancing

I wrote earlier this year about adopting a whole new attitude toward my following journey. Treating it more as play than as work, and accepting that it will be a years-long endeavour.

But a couple of recent experiences made me realize that I have actually reached an important milestone along the way …

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A whole new attitude toward my following journey

I feel rather like I’m living in the Harry Chapin song All My Life’s a Circle as I repeat the first couple of episodes in my following journey.

From taking a few privates as a follower purely to inform my lead, to the exceedingly ambitious idea of becoming a dual-role dancer, to getting a reality check in this endeavour – and now revisiting my ambition with a different attitude …

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A beautiful and miraculous Sheffield Tango Festival

This was my third visit to the Sheffield Tango Festival, after first attending in 2023 and returning last year – and I’m already looking forward to the next.

This one was home to no fewer than six miracles – and that doesn’t even include me surviving the weekend on a diet mostly comprising tea and cake, with a splash or two of Malbec. On which topic, get yourself a cup or glass of one of the above before reading – this is a long one …

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After two highly successful failures, I finally made it to the Tango Secrets practica

When a practica is held weekly, and it’s a direct train ride away, you wouldn’t imagine it would be too challenging to get there. Yet it’s taken me … a while, and tonight was actually my third attempt!

Mind you, my two previous attempts were remarkably successful as failures go …

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Sumate is one of the rarest things in London tango: a joyful and genuine practica

There have been two practicas I’ve been meaning to try forever. Having recently been given the go-ahead to resume dancing, I took the opportunity to try the first of these: Sumate (Spanish for ‘join us’).

Practicas are surprisingly rare things in tango, and Sumate was not only the genuine article, but a joyful experience …

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Coming full circle with following (for now)

I mentioned that I’d solved one problem with my following journey – how to get some practice – but a couple of tango festivals uncovered a more fundamental one: when am I actually going to get the chance to follow in milongas?

The role imbalance already makes it impractical at ordinary milongas: I’m not going to add to the problem by simultaneously removing two leaders from the pool available to followers. But role-balanced festivals had, for a time, felt like the solution …

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Seesaw steps, and learning to slow the leader when my following gets lost

April saw the return of Emma from her Great Indian Adventure, and with excellent timing too, as it also gave her the opportunity to see her framed drawing, which I’d picked up just a few days earlier (below).

While Emma is gentler than Filippo when it comes to feedback, she wasn’t taking any prisoners in the warm-up dance we did! She was straight into mixing in interrupted steps and changes of speed …

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A massive increase in my following sensitivity, sometimes for several seconds at a time!

I’ve always been in awe of following as a skill, but never more so than after my last couple of privates. If I combine the technique input from Mabel and Filippo, I now have 11 bullet points on which to focus!

This is problematic given that my tango brain struggles to cope with three things at a time, but there are four pieces of good news – including what both Filippo and I felt was a night-and-day difference in the sensitivity of my following …

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Which way are we pivoting again? Mabel gave me six things to think about while I figure it out

My following adventure had some rather large gaps, caused by a mix of general life stuff, and two of my teachers fleeing the country. But a third one hadn’t yet reached that level of despair, so the fun had recommenced.

In my last lesson with Filippo, I’d managed to follow him surprisingly well when he stuck to steps and rebounds and upped the speed, and Irina subsequently led me in a milonga song at Tango Secrets, also with remarkable success (all in relative terms, you understand!). It was now time to see what magic Mabel could muster …

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I’d normally be in BsAs now, but The Feast is for sure the next best thing

The past two years, I’ve spent the whole of March in BsAs, and this year my hope was to stay for April too. Sadly, having my flat on the market, with no idea when it might sell, made it impractical to be away for two months this spring. I’m hoping instead to be there for October and November.

But if I can’t be in BsAs, there’s no other place I’d rather be than The Feast …

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Slow, slow, quick – a frustrating then exciting continuation of my following adventure

I did religiously do my solo practice work on the technique bullets I listed last time, but my progress had been at worst undetectable, and at best slow. That saw us start by working on the same things as last time: a posture check to start, another halfway through a step, another at the end of it.

It was still more common for me to correct my posture after losing it than it was for me to maintain it throughout, and I was still struggling with pivots. I asked Filippo if he could slow these right down, taking four beats to lead a 90-degree pivot, so that I had time to be clear on the direction and degree of pivot, and could then actively focus on my posture throughout …

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Returning to a centimetre-by-centimetre approach to following, this time at the right moment

Learning to follow still feels to me like an absurdly ambitious goal, but even at this early and utterly incompetent stage, I’ve started to see some signs of progress.

One of these is finding that an approach which was wrong for me when I first started this adventure is now exactly what I need …

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Solving the problem of how to get more following practice, with a visit to Queer Tango London

I was rather shocked to see that my last following lesson was way back in September! I had another private with Emma in the diary for a week ago, but unfortunately she caught a nasty bug and then disappeared off to India. (Bit of an extreme way to avoid subjecting herself to my following, if you ask me.)

I knew I desperately needed more practice, but I’d felt hesitant about doing more than extremely occasional intercambio tandas at milongas, for two reasons …

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Tackling pivots as a follower, and a side-benefit of collaborative dance – a great restart to my following lessons

It’s been a long wait to resume my following lessons! Diego is in Edinburgh, and Emma has been in BsAs, and I only managed this one before dashing off to Heathrow for a brief trip of my own.

The wait was worth it, though. Not just for the lesson, but also because I finally got my hands on the sketch I’d fallen in love with when Emma posted it on Facebook! I will frame it, but it works pretty well on the temporary stand I’m using, and goes well with my BsAs print …

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I can now follow in a 1930s milonga, while a 2024 one is looking surprisingly feasible

My latest following lesson was with Diego. He normally comes to my apartment, but as he had wall-to-wall bookings, I had to cycle to his studio in deepest south London, fending off dragons, rogues and vagabonds as I went. It was worth it.

We danced a song, and I entirely failed to follow a cross. Twice. Or maybe more, who knows. He did, however, have good news for me …

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A truly incredible following lesson with Mabel Rivero

One of the resident teachers at the summer Feast was Mabel Rivero. I’d caught a glimpse of a private she was giving at Tango by the Sea late last year, coincidentally to another man learning to follow, and it looked amazing! So as soon as I saw she was teaching here too, I signed up for a private on the Sunday afternoon.

Fernando does have a photo from my lesson, which I’ll substitute when the poor man has a chance to catch up with messages, but for now Mabel is the super-smiley one in the centre as we waited for the train home …

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My heart remains in BsAs, but the spirit of the city is alive in the UK

I’ve been back in the UK for almost two months now, but the pull of BsAs hasn’t diminished in the slightest. While most of my body got on the plane to Heathrow, I seem to have forgotten to pack my heart. If only my bank account shared my sentiment, I’d get straight back on a plane again tomorrow.

Fortunately, there are places in the UK where the spirit of the city is alive, and I’ve been lucky enough to enjoy three of them since my return: the Argentine ambassador’s milonga, the Sheffield Tango Festival, and a return visit to Tango by the Sea …

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Another hit of the following drug, in a joyful private with Emma

Tango has an astonishing ability to energise. I’d been woken at 4am by a certain chocolate-coloured feline who decided to make a heroically unsuccessful attempt to jump onto the living room window-sill. I was alerted to this fact by the sound of two cacti pots crashing to the floor. (Orange Boy had a solid alibi as he was asleep on my pillow at the time.)

I didn’t get back to sleep, and when Emma arrived for my private some 14 hours later, I was feeling not dissimilar to the cacti. But as soon as we danced the first song, I found myself feeling as lively as a 4am cat …

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Many familiar faces and embraces at the delicious Sheffield Tango Festival

The Sheffield Tango Festival was a first for me, but it certainly didn’t feel that way: there were a great many familiar faces and embraces from London, Cambridge, The Feast, Tango by the Sea, and – in at least one case – Buenos Aires.

Of course, the ‘familiar faces’ part is for varying values of same, and in some cases it was the embrace rather than the face I recognised …

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Pugliese helping out with my latest following lesson

A busy work trip to Vegas followed by a bout of COVID brought home as a souvenir meant that I hadn’t done as much solo practice as I’d hoped – and it showed! Though Emma seemed more impressed by my following than I was, with rather more ‘Esa!’s than I felt were merited.

But despite me still feeling I was 70% clumsiness to 30% flow, Señor Pugliese joined Emma as co-teacher to deliver one hugely important lesson …

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It’s all in the smallest of things, as I battle with following back ochos

We all know tango is never a straight line. Some days, you feel like Gavito, other days like a baby elephant taking its first steps. Tonight was one of the latter days.

But despite the fact that I felt I wasn’t remotely on form, Emma still delivered another ocho revelation

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Emma’s forward ocho miracles, and following a less industrial-sized lead

This evening was my first following lesson with Emma, and it was an amazing one!

So far, I’ve felt that the act of following itself is really starting to fall into place, but that I had a zillion technique issues to address with my pivots. That’s absolutely still the case, of course, but I felt like in the course of a single lesson my forward pivots went from 20% to 60% (where my current standard for 100% is “could pass for a halfway-competent beginner follower, given a sufficiently dark room”) …

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Following is really starting to click, thanks to a lesson I learned in motorsports

I’m really amazed at how well following is really starting to click now! And it’s all down to an approach I learned in my pre-tango obsession: motorsports.

The biggest problem I had when I started this latest tango adventure was anticipating the lead. I was listening to the music and knew how I would interpret it. At best, I would be expecting to move in one way and then have to quickly switch gears in my head to follow what was actually led; at worst, I was doing completely unled movements …

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I’ve made surprising progress in my following: I now feel like a beginner

Perhaps it’s an odd way to express it, but after three more privates, I now feel like I’ve reached the stage of being a beginner follower.

What I mean by that is that, previously, I very much felt like a leader trying to make the very difficult transition to following. Some tango concepts learned as a leader were helpful, of course, but in other ways my experience as a leader was actually hindering my attempts to follow. Now, though, I feel like I’ve (mostly!) succeeded in letting go of the internal struggle between the two, and can actually fully focus on the follower role …

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Following … a leader, and my tango heart

I had my third private as a follower, and while I missed plenty of things, I for the first time had an experience of Just Dancing from the follower side.

I also decided to follow my tango heart when it comes to when, where and how I dance …

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An amazing leading dividend from just two lessons as a follower

While leading and following are two very different mindsets, the technique is the same – just that followers need more of it at any given level.

I knew from past experience that following is a very powerful tool for improving my lead, but I really couldn’t believe the extent to which this paid off after just two (new) following lessons …

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A time to lead, a time to follow

Six weeks ago, I said I was pausing my privates while I figured out my next step. A few days after that, I mulled over the possibility of learning to follow – at least, to some degree.

Sure, I’ve taken a few lessons as a follower, but those have always been geared to helping my lead, rather than actually focusing on following. But I’ve decided it’s now time to have a real go at the opposite (and, I suspect, more challenging) role …

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The only leader is the music: A joyful Feast

Felipe Martinez recently talked about the difference between danceable music and music which moves you, literally and figuratively. I think that’s a good way of describing what is, to me, the difference between rhythmic and lyrical tango.

I’d expected the work I was doing on double-time to increase my enjoyment of rhythmic music. It has, but to my surprise, that wasn’t the biggest benefit …

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A lesson in improvisation, switching between lead and follow

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I know, a lesson in improvisation sounds like a contradiction in terms, but it was a private I really needed!

In trying to work toward truly improvised dance, I need a better understanding of the core elements and the possibilities. I also need to find ways of freeing myself from auto-pilot. I can kind of do that when dancing quickly, but slow dance tends to gravitate back to my core vocabulary …

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Giros, contra-giros and following with Los Ocampos

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The teachers – Omar Ocampo and Monica Romero, aka Los Ocampos – have an excellent reputation, and I’m of the view that I can never have too many giro lessons. Plus it was organised by Queer Tango London, so I was assured of a fun atmosphere.

The workshop covered a version of the giro which I’d never been taught before. At its simplest, it was:

  • Leader back diagonal step, leading follower side-step
  • Leader collects, leads follower forward step
  • Leader pivots on both feet, leads follower side-step
  • Leader completes pivot, enters walk, leading follower back-step

It felt slightly confusing at first as it seemed to be three steps rather than four, but then I realised that the follower does complete a full sequence of side-forward-side-back – it’s just that the back step then becomes the first step of the walk.

The first variation was to do the same thing clockwise rather than anti-clockwise. It felt slightly trickier, but I think that would just be a matter of practice.

Next was the original version with a sacada on the follower’s second side-step. I don’t have much experience of sacadas, but this one actually felt relatively easy.

I’ve always understood intellectually that a sacada is an illusion; that you are stepping into the space the follower is leaving, though my only practical experience of a foot sacada is, I think, a sequence in the forward ocho where I then step around her into a parada. But this one made perfect sense: because the follower is pivoting around into her back-step, the illusion of taking her space and’ forcing’ the turn is quite convincing.

There was then a version with two sacadas. I ducked out at this point! I do think the two-sacada version would make sense to me once I’d had enough practice at the single-sacada sequence, but attempting it now wasn’t going to be pretty.

I’d already had enough challenge for one evening: being a Queer Tango event, everyone swapped roles, so I was learning to follow as well as lead the sequence! That was … challenging. I did have to let everyone know that they’d need to use some combination of brute force and telekinesis to lead me.

It was, though, very useful as well as comedic. In particular, I found one of Omar’s following tips for the giro made a huge difference: just follow the leader’s shoulder. Once I started doing that, it made it much more obvious which direction I needed to go, and that was really 60% of the lead. It was really helpful to get such a practical demonstration of that.

The teachers are great fun, and the QTL crowd as friendly as can be, so it was a lovely evening.

More tango tomorrow, of course, at the Tango Space milonga, where Mara Ovieda will once again be DJing. Should be good!

A touch of BsAs in London, and dancing almost every tanda

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I’d wondered how it would feel, returning to dancing in London. Whether my familiar milongas would now feel strange. Tonight’s didn’t: lots of friends were there, and I dived straight back in.

What did feel strange was that it had been four whole days since my last milonga! Technically, three days, I suppose, since we left Yira Yira in the early hours of Saturday morning and I was at the Tango Space milonga when it started at 8pm on Tuesday. As an added bonus, there was a touch of Buenos Aires to the dance …

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Patio de Tango, La Viruta and a magical evening at Salon Canning

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You’ll have to excuse the blobby photos from milongas. I’m really trying not to take photos this trip. Instead, I’m shooting very short video clips with my phone, and will then edit them into maybe a 5-10 minute overview of the whole trip. This means most of my photos are in fact screengrabs from video, thus not the greatest quality.

The daytime part of the blog is rather brief: I had breakfast in bed, then lazed (apart from accidentally writing a blog post).

I made up for this laziness in the evening, managing one-and-a-bit classes and three milongas …

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Improvisation, initiation, following, accessible Pugliese and the perfect ending to a milonga

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I decided last time that Juan Martin and Steffi’s classes are so good that I had to take full advantage of their limited time in London, despite my determination to do fewer classes and more milongas. The classes do at least double as a way to get to know followers for the Los Angelitos milonga which follows, so I can kind of claim they are in the spirit of dancing more.

Today’s classes were again advertised as technique-focused, with ‘pivots and communication’ the theme, though interestingly that turned out to be more true of the beginner/improver class than the intermediate one …

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Dropping the beginner class, and getting some bonus experience as a follower

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Many years ago, I did an introductory scuba diving course. Known as the PADI Open Water Diver course, it took four days, and comprised about a day’s theory, some swimming pool exercises and then a couple of days of diving. Do that, and you emerge as a certified diver.

Want to become an Advanced Open Water Diver? Certainly: go on to do one deep dive (30m), one navigation dive (following a compass to swim in a triangle) and three other ‘adventure’ dives (eg. a night dive), and suddenly I’m an ‘advanced’ diver – with all of eight days in the water.

Tango gradings aren’t quite that bad, but schools definitely use inflated levels designed to flatter the student …

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All about the embrace

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Today was going to be more following, this time with Bridgitta, in the practica at Tango Garden. As things turned out, we switched back and forth, me leading something and then Bridgitta having me follow the same thing to illustrate how different versions feel …

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Michael Lavocah on Troilo, and more learning about leading through following

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Sunday’s tango-related fun kicked off with a 90-minute talk on Troilo by Michael Lavocah, author of Tango Stories, Musical Secrets.

I couldn’t even begin to do justice to the talk in a brief blog post. Lavocah clearly has an immense breadth and depth of knowledge, and boundless enthusiasm for sharing as much of it as humanly possible …

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One of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever had

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I mentioned last time my plan to spend a little time learning to follow in order to help inform my lead. The question was: could I, within say 4-5 hours of private lessons, reach the point where I would get ‘aha!’ moments about my leading?

The initial idea was to devote a two-hour lesson with Maeve to following, then see whether we both felt I might hit that 4-5 hour deadline …

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A major realisation, and a bold plan

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Tuesday evenings are straight into the improver’s class, as that precedes the beginner’s one. After a warm-up dance, we started with outside walking and then moved onto the cross.

I hadn’t been happy with my lead of the cross. It felt sloppy, and followers often ended up in a kind of half-hearted one. But tonight it clicked into place, and the key was fairly obvious in retrospect …

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Follower’s liberation – and this leader’s too!

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Every now and then, my now-ex tried to persuade me to do a class which is clearly aimed at a much higher level than my own.

It’s not normally as crazy as it seems, as I’ve noticed that advanced classes run by visiting teachers are often wholly or mostly technique focused, so it wouldn’t be a show-stopper if I couldn’t do any specific sequence they happened to use as an example. But on this particular occasion, the class that seemed to apply only to some dimly-imagined point in my far-off future …

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